Det korte svaret
435 til 5 950 kroner
Spennet følger hvor nær du står konfirmanten. Naboer og bekjente i nedre ende, foreldre i øvre. De fleste gjester lander mellom 500 og 1 500 kroner.
There is no right answer, and no one expects you to hit a specific number. But because the question is so hard to ask out loud, it’s useful to know what others actually do.
Hva gir folk, etter relasjon
| Relasjon | Snittbeløp |
|---|---|
| Foreldre | 5 950 kr |
| Besteforeldre | 3 750 kr |
| Fadder | 1 420 kr |
| Tante eller onkel | 1 300 kr |
| Fetter eller kusine | 640 kr |
| Venn av familien | 520 kr |
| Nabo | 435 kr |
Notice how steep the curve is: parents and grandparents account for most of the total, while everyone else is just a fraction. If you're in the lower half of the table, that's completely normal — and that's where most guests are.
Surveys have shown that a confirmand typically receives just over 28,000 kroner, with a slightly higher average for boys than girls. That number mostly reflects how many people are invited.
De tilfellene folk lurer mest på
Neighbour
400–500 kroner. This level is remarkably stable, and no more is expected. Many neighbours just give a greeting card, and that’s perfectly fine too.
Friends' children
Around 500 kroner. If you’re close friends and the families socialise a lot, it often rises to 800–1,000.
Niece or nephew
Around 1,300 kroner. This is considered close family, so it’s clearly above the friend level.
Godparent
Around 1,420 kroner. The godparent role carries expectations beyond family ties — many godparents give more than aunts and uncles.
When several siblings are confirmed
Give the same amount. Children compare, and it’s remembered for many years if the second got less than the first.
Tre ting som betyr mer enn beløpet
- That there’s something written in the card. An envelope with just money isn’t remembered. A message that says something specific is.
- That the amount suits your finances. No table is worth stretching yourself for. The confirmand has no idea what you can afford, and doesn’t care.
- That the confirmand can spend it on something they want. Fourteen-year-olds have very clear preferences. That’s why money and gift cards dominate this category.
Hva skriver du i kortet?
That’s the harder half. We’ve gathered 18 ready-made greetings for the confirmand in what to write in a confirmation card, and 14 original poems in poems for the confirmand.
If several people are going in together on the gift, joint gift explains how to collect and include a greeting from everyone.
Kilder
The amounts above come from a Norstat survey conducted for SKAGEN Fondene, reproduced among others by Nettavisen and SpareBank 1. The figures are from 2025 and will be updated when new surveys are published.